Should you hire an officiant or ask a friend?

Photo by  zelle duda  on  Unsplash

Photo by zelle duda on Unsplash

One of the most important parts of your wedding is your ceremony.  This is the moment where you and your partner are officially wedded and begin your lives together as a married couple.  But who will be the one to lead the ceremony? 

If you are religious this falls to the clergy-person of your faith and is an easy decision.  However, many people do not claim a religion, so they need to find an officiant to preside over the ceremony.

Through a quick google search and checking state regulations, a quick online class will allow you to become an ordained minister.  But the question is, do you hire someone or do you ask someone who knows you and your partner to officiate your wedding?  

Here are some tips to keep in mind when choosing your officiant:

Tip #1: A hired officiant typically has lots of experience and will know what to say, when to say it, and can provide a solemnity to your ceremony that a nervous friend may not be able to do.  Also, officiants may have a certain way they like to organize things, which means you won't have to worry about the officiant missing any critical parts of your wedding and you can relax and know you're in good hands. 

Tip #2: If you ask a friend/family member, make sure they feel comfortable speaking in public.  If they tend to get nervous speaking in front of a crowd, you may want to ask someone else.  

Tip #3: A friend/family member knows you and your partner and can make the ceremony more personal. Just make sure they don't include too many stories that take away from the important part of the ceremony: your vows. 

Tip #4: If it's your friend/family member's first time officiating, you may need to find the script for them to follow and dictate the timeline for the ceremony.  You can find many scripts to use on the internet, but it is another item to add on your to-do list. 

Tip #4: A friend/family member may be willing to officiate the wedding for free if they are an attending guest; whereas you would have to pay for a hired officiant.  

Tip #5: Depending on the location of your ceremony, make sure you have a microphone available for your officiant and you and your partner.  You don't want your guests missing any part of the ceremony because they are not able to hear you.

Have you decided on your officiant yet?  Did you find these tips helpful?  Comment below!