What do you do when you have to do something you don't want to?
We all have obligations that we have to attend to whether we want to or not. I remember growing up and I would have to go to a party or an event with my parents that I didn't want to go to and I would think "when I'm older I'm not going to do anything I don't want to." Well, I'm 36 now and let me say that there are still things I have to go to that I don't want to.
But now as an adult, I find that the parties and events I have to attend are more personal. Which means that when I don't feel like going I have to find my inner she-women, put on my grown woman panties, get ready, and go. Because the obligations my parents once forced me to attend are now my obligations. Sometimes work related but most they are personal social obligations. And for me, a woman who is an introvert and feels most energized at home or in a small gathering of 2-3 people, large social situations are exhausting and are often dreaded.
So how do I fulfill my obligations when all I want to do is stay at home curled up on the couch?
I mentally prepare myself. It may sound silly, but when I know I have a social event to attend, I have to mentally prepare myself. I have to give myself a pep talk and put myself in the frame of mind to be talkative and sociable.
I set a time frame for how long I'll be out. I can be very sociable for about two hours, three hours max. And then I need some downtime to gather myself again. If you're like me, knowing how long you are able to last in social situations can help you manage your energy better.
I socialize in small groups. When it comes to large gatherings, you won't find me in the center of the room. You'll more than likely find me on the side talking to a small group of 2-3 people. I definitely do much better when I'm talking to a few people than a lot. I prefer small intimate conversations than large ones.
I take the time to decompress after. Following a social outing, you can find me at home the next time or going for a hike. Everyone has their own way of decompressing and for me, it's doing something low key that doesn't require me to put my social game face on.
These are the ways I am able to get through my social obligations that may not be something I want to attend but have to as an adult. What do you do to fulfill the obligations you do not want to? How do you prepare yourself? Share with us below!