Are save-the-date cards necessary?

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You’ve chosen your wedding date (yay) and now you’re wondering what to do next.  You’ve heard people say that it’s important to send out save-the date cards but you’re on a budget and you’re not sure if they’re worth the expense.  Here are some tips to keep in mind when deciding if you are going to send out save-the date cards or not:

Tip #1: How will you announce your engagement?  Pre-internet, the only way to notify family and friends you were engaged was by calling each person or sending them a notice in the mail.  Sending save-the-dates was a way to notify guests of your engagement, there’s a wedding in the future, and they’re going to be invited to attend.  

Tip #2: How many months until your wedding?  Traditionally, you would want to send out your wedding invitations within 2-3 months from your wedding date.  So if you have a short engagement and your wedding date is a little bit longer than the 2-3 months, say about 4-5 months, it’s okay, you don’t need to send a save-the-date, your guests can get the notice when they receive your actual wedding invitation.  But if your wedding is a year out, sending save-the-date cards to your guests is a good reminder to look out for a wedding invitation in the future and to make sure to save the date so they can attend. 

Tip #3:  Where do your guests live?  If many of your guests are from out-of-town, where they’ll need to figure out hotel and transportation to get to your wedding, giving them a save-the-date will help them plan ahead and make the necessary arrangements so they can make it to your wedding.

Tip #4: You don’t need to send a save-the-date to everyone.  Your circle of friends knows you’re engaged as well as your immediate family.  They don’t need a save-the-date card mailed to them as they’ll be in the thick of helping you through your wedding planning.  You could send the save-the-date cards to those outside of your immediate circle or guests that live out of town. 

Tip #5: Think outside of the traditional save-the-date cards. With many couples being environmentally conscious, budget conscious, and so many great options on the internet, instead of sending out traditional cards, you can always send an email announcing your engagement and save the date.  This is a great way to let people know you are engaged and that a wedding invitation is forthcoming.  

So while save-the-date cards are super helpful in letting people know your wedding is coming up, this is one time that following a tradition isn’t necessary such that you don’t need to mail out cards.  Save yourself the cost of printing announcements and postage stamps and instead create an online announcement and send that to your loved ones.  

What do you think?  Are you planning on sending out save-the-date cards, creating an online announcement, or not sending anything at all?  Share with us below!