Is it okay to have my bridesmaid pay for their dress?

 Photo by  Omar Lopez  on  Unsplash

Photo by Omar Lopez on Unsplash

This week, we’re continuing the theme of talking bridal party, most particularly your bridesmaids.

A question I’ve received often from brides is whether or not they can have their bridesmaids pay for their dress. The answer to that is “Yes!” 

When you ask your friend to be a bridesmaid, it’s good to have the conversation early on what you intend for the bridesmaids to pay for.  I understand this can be an uncomfortable conversation, but trust me when I say they’ll appreciate knowing up front what they have to pay for rather than them finding out and being surprised and possibly upset later on. One of the most popular reasons someone will decline being a bridesmaid is because of money.  So being upfront with what your bridesmaids will have to pay for will prevent disgruntlement later on. 

Here are expected expenses for your wedding day, you and your bridesmaids will need to be aware of:

  • Dress for the wedding
  • Shoes for the wedding
  • Hair and make up
  • Accessories

Depending on if you want your bridesmaids to have the same “look” meaning same dress style, hair style, nail color, and shoes, you may want them to get their hair and makeup done by the same salon.  

If you like having a variety of looks but say one color scheme and you’re not particular on style then that gives your bridesmaids flexibility on hair, makeup, and shoes. 

And as the bride, it’s okay to have your bridesmaid pay for all of these items.  If your budget can afford you to pay for one of them say hair, makeup, or dress your bridesmaids will appreciate the gesture.  But if your budget doesn’t have room for this then let your bridesmaids know this as soon as possible because they may not have a flexible budget and will need to save up to pay for it.

Also, bridesmaids dresses don’t need to be ordered as early as your wedding dress; however, once you figure out what style of dress you want your ladies to wear, it’s helpful to tell them sooner rather than later, that way they can budget that into their life.  

As a bridesmaid, it’s wonderful to be asked to be a part of a wedding.  The role shows how special your relationship is with the bride, but the cost of being a bridesmaid can definitely add up.  Aside from the items needed for the wedding, you also want to keep in mind your friends are also contributing to your bachelorette as well as gifts for your bridal shower and wedding. So letting your ladies know what they’ll need to pay for, will help make their life and your life a little easier.  The last thing you want is someone backing out last minute because they can’t afford the expenses because they didn't have enough time to budget it in.  

Remember, wedding planning is suppose to be fun.  Yes, it can be stressful, but for the most part, it should be enjoyable.  The last thing you want is to have disagreements and end relationships because of money with your bridesmaids.  So let them know upfront what the cost expectations will be.  In the end, everyone, including yourself will be happy.

Have you chosen your bridesmaids' dresses yet?  Will you be paying for it for them or will they be paying for it themselves?  Have you had the money conversation yet with your bridesmaids?  Share with us below if you have and how the conversation went!